tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post4820551092153541677..comments2023-11-05T00:24:38.056-07:00Comments on Debbie K Being True to my heART: "Yes I Can!"Debbie Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16451022822272160128noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-10968969361548939112009-02-16T13:50:00.000-08:002009-02-16T13:50:00.000-08:00I love this photo Debbie! I stumbled upon your bl...I love this photo Debbie! I stumbled upon your blog when looking for wildlife art and artists, like myself, and was immediately drawn to your photo of this leopard. What a great capture, and I am so envious of the experience - I long to go to Africa to take my own photos! :) For now, I settle with buying photos from amazing photographers. :)<BR/><BR/>Christina Langman<BR/>Wildlife Artist<BR/>www.BigCatArt.comChristina Langmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01248968668397663594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-45631303833772170062009-01-26T15:04:00.000-08:002009-01-26T15:04:00.000-08:00A few days to catch your breath and contemplate th...A few days to catch your breath and contemplate the options may make things go more quickly when you start in again!<BR/><BR/>I am so very very proud of you, not only for getting through this, but for reaching out to those who can help and for deciding to stand up for yourself and for the next poor person they decide to do this to as well!<BR/><BR/>It sounds like you have a strategy and some starting points! I'll be cheering for you!<BR/><BR/>alanalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013341654649926300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-8829059505975211462009-01-26T02:56:00.000-08:002009-01-26T02:56:00.000-08:00Thank you , thank you, thank THANK YOU x million f...Thank you , thank you, thank THANK YOU x million for your continued support. Your love has just blown me away.<BR/>Ironically while your love has swept me along I have been tempoarily becalmed by a reply from my consultants very kind secretary who is more like a friend to me. She hated having to type this letter & send it to me. She was away on the Friday when I received it. She has sent a really sincere appology & also informed me my consultant is abscent all week on holiday. So the wind has kind of been taken out of my sails a little. With all the excellent help I have received from you my wonderful friends, to fight my case, this may well be a blessing & give me more time to build up my case.<BR/><BR/>Bless you all<BR/>Love<BR/>DebbieDebbie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16451022822272160128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-83729335809859744262009-01-25T21:42:00.000-08:002009-01-25T21:42:00.000-08:00>I have learned so much about myself this weeke...<I>>I have learned so much about myself this weekend. I have healed more than I thought, I am getting stronger & able to recover from stressful situation better than I ever dreamed possible</I><BR/><BR/>That's what transition is about Debbie. The change of gender is pretty incidental - it's being able to live and be strong that's the real outcome. And at one level your mother's reaction isn't surprising: she now knows you are a woman just as much as you do. <BR/><BR/>So far as the PCT is concerned, it's worth reading the new <A HREF="http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Publications/PublicationsPolicyAndGuidance/DH_093419" REL="nofollow">NHS Constitution</A> if you haven't already done so. I'd suggest you quote from it in any appeal / complaint. It's not yet law, but it was signed at Downing Street last week. It's also worth reading about <A HREF="http://www.nhs.uk/Treatmentabroad/Pages/Entitlement.aspx" REL="nofollow">when you may be entitled to treatment abroad</A> (eg if there is a big CHX delay as this could help put pressure on the PCT to allow you to go to Brighton. You should also be entitled to <A HREF="http://www.nhs.uk/choices/Pages/Aboutpatientchoice.aspx" REL="nofollow">patientchoice</A> in this country. Mental health is excepted, but SRS is not a mental health service so it should be within the patient choice framework. There's all sorts of small print and I've not managed to read that but if they have turned you down on the basis of location not budget, then you have a very strong case. (Indeed you have a case of discrimination of grounds of gender reassignment if they allow patient choice or other elective surgeries but not SRS.) If they subsequently declare there's no budget, it's not going to be believable and you can argue that if they had not discriminated in the first place that they could have planned a budget.<BR/><BR/>It's possible the battle won't be too terrible. The PCT may try to fight but equally PCTs do try it on an back down in the face a patient clearly determined to exert her legal rights.<BR/><BR/>PS Sorry to use my other log on but as I was writing so much I felt I needed to rather than the usual one.Nicola Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09538629061150919230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-52369826339560600752009-01-25T14:14:00.000-08:002009-01-25T14:14:00.000-08:00Dear Anji, Jo & Lori Bless youI have learned s...Dear Anji, Jo & Lori Bless you<BR/><BR/>I have learned so much about myself this weekend. I have healed more than I thought, I am getting stronger & able to recover from stressful situation better than I ever dreamed possible. I have also discovered how blessed I am to have such wonderful friends both locally & all over the world. I care about you all & you have all been there for me.I will never ever forget you. You have all made such a big difference to my life, you have all touched my heart.<BR/><BR/>Dear Anji my friend I could not have done it without. You are always one of the first to hold out your hand.<BR/><BR/>Jo my friend. Thank you, thank you for helping me to discover the spirit to fight. The devil is perhaps in the detail. My original post on Friday was from the heart, a desperate scream for help. As always you are so insightful. I do not require psychiatric evaluation or referral which is as you say ChX main function in this process. I have had all that already. I already meet the criteria for the surgery with Mr Thomas, I have 2 gender specialist who are willing to refer me. I will have completed the 1 year real life experience Mr Thomas requires for surgery in February, after which I could in theory have the surgery. Charring Cross require I believe anything up to 2 years life experience, that is the crux of the matter. This whole refusal is probably a deliberate attempt to delay the process by pushing me into the system at ChX to persuade me to find funding privately. They know in my situation I will not be able to wait up to 2 more years ChX may impose on me & so I will either become ill or simply go away, thus saving them paying for the surgery of a patient they consider very low priority.<BR/><BR/>Lori You are a star to me. Your emotive words so often inspire me to keep going.<BR/><BR/>Thank you my dear friends<BR/>Love<BR/>DebbieDebbie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16451022822272160128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-53694324229095101612009-01-25T11:24:00.000-08:002009-01-25T11:24:00.000-08:00Your strength and determination astounds me. Seri...Your strength and determination astounds me. Seriously.Lori Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01883850750657502492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-92169655530987884592009-01-25T10:12:00.000-08:002009-01-25T10:12:00.000-08:00You GO GIRL!!Now, there is detail to look into, bu...You GO GIRL!!<BR/><BR/>Now, there is detail to look into, but I too feel that this whole 'agreement' with West London Mental Health (basically the Charing Cross GIC) is a red herring. The GIC at Charing Cross is a mental health service, it doesn't conduct surgery. This is done via surgeons at a range of hospitals here or abroad, including Phil Thomas. Charing Cross can be part of the process of getting you a referral to a surgeon after you've done your 2 years, but that's it. I believe.<BR/><BR/>If Southampton PCT is claiming that it cannot fund your GRS because of this 'agreement' then it's got itself all tangled up. That agreement with a GIC is surely only for psychiatric referral? Cos that's all West London Mental Health do. Surgery is a different matter, and I don't believe any PCT has an agreement with anyone for that? Don't quote me...check it, but I think I'm right. <BR/><BR/>In another sense, it sounds from that letter that the PCT hasn't said 'no', quite. It has said, we won't fund you to go to Brighton. You have to go to Charing Cross.<BR/><BR/>?<BR/><BR/>Don't underestimate the ability of the bureaucrats to just get their facts wrong. Sounds like you need to get some chapter and verse.<BR/><BR/>If you are still seeing the counsellor I think you're seeing (local to you?), then she'll know the drill.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck...at 'em girl!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17356965133404249244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6030198095309456370.post-22752439851789505382009-01-25T08:50:00.000-08:002009-01-25T08:50:00.000-08:00I'm proud of you Debbie!! Yes you certainly can.I'm proud of you Debbie!! Yes you certainly can.Anjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02562210585479814093noreply@blogger.com